Lily was certainly not perfect, and she would not have liked me to lie and make her out to be perfect either. And not everyone thought of her as a friend. Unlike our eldest sister JJ, who was an obedient and responsible child, Lily was somewhat the family rebel. She liked to have fun, and had many run-ins with our parents when it came to matters of chores and curfews. She also had a temper that JJ and I – for lack of a better description – simply feared!
Those of you who read my eulogy to JJ may recall that she and Lily spent some time away from the family when Lily was only 6 years old. The result of this was that Lily and JJ were always very close, but my relationship with Lily suffered for a majority of our childhood. I think Lily simply held a belief that I was the cause of them being sent away, so she branded me “mommy & daddy’s pet”, and it didn’t help that I got the toys and all the fun stuff where they got only clothing and school supplies – as kids, they didn’t know what the priorities of life were and that my parents were too poor to buy them everything they would have liked.